It didn't matter to me if I liked them or there was a rift in our relationship. This was by no means done lightly, as I'm sure you totally understand. The embezzled money is forever gone and cannot be retrieved. Won't get a chance to say goodbye. The embezzlers have already split $3 million now the 5 siblings will split equally $2 million that is in hard product [ buildings]. I will have a memorial graveside service to honor my mom (Who is in hospice care). Like the family politics go I was not included in the service. Reblog. He said since I'd be dead, how will I know if the wishes were honored? I am so in dread for when something happens to my own dear parents, in regard to my sister. Mom didnt want me blocked. Oh and to save money of course It is a false sense but they believe they have made a point. So we will be interpreting her wishes and adding a healthy — or unhealthy — dose of our own injured feelings. It's now been five years since our nightmare began for real. They love their mom, but insist their dad would not have wanted her there. But, since I live in the south, and all but my sister lives in the south, it is the tradition that you "pay respects" even if you didn't like the person. My girlfriend for 2 years passed away after a short but painful stay at a Chicago hospital. My son kept thanking me for being there and helping him as he said he couldn't of coped alone. But we all paid into her life insurance. I believe in karma, and I know some people are going to be in for a rude awakening Money is the root of all evil. Their actions indicate they were attempting to protect your son in some way (?) And shocked that it had come to this point. My husband and I were the caregivers. It makes perfect sense really. I have lived through a scenario where to have hosted any kind of memorial would have been personally and morally intolerable to me. I've been uninvited from my daughter's Father's funeral He was creamated by his new wife of one year, in Indiana And he's from here in Florida He his sister and I all more or less grew up together .Our daughter is 28 yrs old and in prison and very devestated by it all . I take that back. 2. No other funeral home I have dealt with even comes close to Springfield Funeral Home. For more details. There was a huge argument on the phone between him and his nan and he refused to let her see the baby. I had it put in my will that i don't want any sort of funeral when i die. They may feel like this is their last chance to make peace with the deceased by either offering forgiveness or seeking it. Susan Reid (author) from Where Left is Right, CA on September 22, 2013: I'm so sorry I didn't see your post earlier. Such action only comes after years of sleepless nights due to unceasing harassment and invented drama. Then she had the nerve to show up at the wake and the funeral and sit on front row with her husband. And it's normal to be angry and resentful. So please - when excluding someone from a person's death - make sure you do it for the right reasons. I do not know this woman, but to keep a mother from a sons funeral is appalling. You should consider people who've had to make a very difficult decision to become estranged and that as perverse as it may seem to you want to pay their last respects in a very private way. As much as I love my niece she should accept the fact her father hated her mother and I never will have the heart to tell her the man she knew as "her dad" isn't .Sadly her mother had an affair while attending college and she is someone else's child.What is worst my ex sister in law confessed to my brother years after their divorce my niece isn't /wasn't his child . It has been a full year of estrangement at this point. Not surprisingly, family reactions when they got the news of MIL's passing were "It's all about me!! Others want it PUBLIC. The way I see it is this: If the person is going to die, write out a final will and testament in who you do not want at your funereal and make sure no idiot lawyer or judge will overrule it. My other sibling had been mom's 24/7 caretaker for many years.Prior to this, my other sibling, spouse and adult child never called, visited, or even sent a birthday card for almost 15 years. This cousin, in recent years, has been denigrating my parents and myself with harsh judgements about my evil sister. My story how I got my sister get out of Scientology shows how to can help your family or friends out of a cult too. There is no point in offering forgiveness and trying to make amends if the actions of your family members would be ongoing and negatively impacting you after reconciling. I add my condolences for your loss wmschneider. Dan Winters for Reader’s Digest. I spoke to friends and other, more distant family members, I refrained from telling anyone what I thought of them, and I left - I had a legitimate excuse - immediately after the service. Any suggestions on how to keep my ex-boyfriend away from my mothers gravesite and to restrict him from plastering memorials all over social media. In short, you will end up with a smaller group for the after-party. * Can you prevent them from coming to pay their last respects? Drug addicts and attention seekers are often coping with mental health issues or an abusive past. They are still living in the perfect little glass house where nothing is wrong, yet EVERYTHING is wrong really! I've written extensively on family betrayal and estrangement. Write and place an obituary in their local paper. My advice would be not to exclude anyone from a funeral because the hurt caused could be worse than having them there. Make the funeral (typically a religious ceremony) open, but make the interment (burial) for family only. Yet he did it anyways after her demanding he unblock. Am I happy? Since the family church no longer exists (it was sold), and my mother-in-law has no affiliation with any other church, we'd have to shop for a place to hold her funeral. She freaks out when the daughter's name is mentioned. Needless to say, in over two long, intense years of family feuding, I've had plenty of time to think about this. ... You see, in February of this year we buried my precious momma, exactly three months later we were … No one lifted a finger to help us. My father taught me that. Our mom was very angry and resentful that they never visited our dad when he was sick and dying. Why show up for the funeral, when you had not visited or had any contact for 15 years. She certainly did not look bereaved and took all the attention for herself, as if it was her Prom or some dam thing. Kept me from my mothers life last 5 years. She recruited my sister and brothers to join her in her effort to exclude me from the family by threatening to exclude anyone who had contact with me. Since the dead person used an old portrait of a younger looking pretty face picture for their actual closing funeral. Don't have a funeral at all. I can not answer and explain was not my doing nor my deceased mothers devision was a power controling idiot trying to be a big shot. But really it is quite pathetic of her to do this, I think. It will mean my children are finally safe from her trying to get her claws into them. When are the services that YOU are supposed to be putting on so we can show up with our crocodile tears and declare, "Oh yes, it's been soooo hard...? While the Barbs of the world will bathe in bitterness until their final breath, only fools will carry forth the vendettas of the deceased. However, I made the effort to make up because I wanted to have some sort of relationship with my family, caretaker sibling and mom. Most people who request their body be donated to science sadly do not have their wish fulfilled. She chose not to attend her daughter's recent wedding. She was very specific she wanted everyone to attend her services. Your writings make a grave assumption that the unwanted guest is the one who has the history of doing ill or having wrongful ways with the relatives. Except in movies or TV. I just don't think it's right for them to show up after all these years as if they really cared. How can I honor Chris even if I'm invited to the funeral. I feel totally fed up to put it mildly and feel like I can't do right for doing wrong. He is now in his 3rd year of college, so I see what is coming next. My son is questioning the reasons for their involvement now. They are poisonous people who have upset many family members and would use the funeral to vent their anger after a few too many drinks. can be sent to ??? He was and still is a liar to the utmost extreme! God bless you all. Her & I were best friends. . So, I've got about 6 people in my family (cousins and sister) who have not given me the time of day in over twenty years. Just to say goodbye, not as a prodigal daughter or a fortune hunter (I hope the fortune makes SM very happy).... sometimes the truth behind the cover being sold isn’t what we see. Somewhere down the line all the wiring went faulty. I don't see how one can feel better by hurting another person. That is now tradition, and we see no reason to break with it. How common is this and what does it mean for friends and family? She is not welcome in my home under any circumstances. The writer Anita Brookner, who has died at the age of 87, requested that no funeral be held after her death. My two nephews are apparently still in denial and haven't forgiven me for what they perceive as abandonment. I don’t want to disappoint anyone or miss the golden opportunity one could only dream of,” he signed out on a positive note. What did I do to justify this behavior you ask? I have never been so humiliated in all my life. I never had to deal with this but this what I can say as my personal opinion on this: Have the person who will die (if he/she is sick with a terminally ill sickness) make a video recording of what they want to have at his/her funereal. I'll never be able to have a relationship with them even if they wanted to someday which i very much doubt. Have a memorial service scheduled some distance in the future. Some people are just so abusive and want to feel superior to others here on earth. Both my daughters had told me not to share their deaths with certain people. 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