Even though I never played on a real team, I always saw my sons pursuing the hockey dream I couldn’t. That is what Maria and I did as parents. to colleagues, clients or customers, or inquire about Wetting the surface a little bit each day is the key. dressed at home because I didn’t want to be embarrassed at the arena. A Toronto District School Board (TDSB) elementary and secondary school teacher for the last 11 years, Nastassia Subban is seconded to York University where she is a course director for teacher candidates while Natasha Subban uses her visual art expertise to engage students. We all looked forward to a bacon sandwich after the games. On those weeknights, I would leave school between 9 p.m. and 9:30 p.m., drive home, change, then wake up P.K., who had gone to bed wearing his snowsuit. Unlike in their organized hockey games, adult interference was never seen or heard. It is among the first outdoor skating surfaces to open each season, an occasion that marks the unofficial start of winter in the city. I had applied for a vice-principal position at Runnymede Collegiate’s adult night school program. Have fun. We missed some of the girls’ games because we would drop them off and then pick up them up later. to Pine Point Arena in Etobicoke, where he was the talk of house league. Karl and Maria Subban raised five children, two daughters and three sons. Karl Subban is a principal in the Greater Toronto Area, and a large … She played basketball from childhood until she graduated from university. The biggest takeaway I have from that time is that hockey matters but people matter more. On that first house league team, P.K. Teammates are like classmates. Children love to play. It builds self-confidence. Three boys playing and practising hockey all over the city and two girls playing rep basketball meant Saturdays and Sundays were always a blur. It started at 6 p.m. and lasted until around 9 p.m. That was our mindset all along — to be better. Like those children who get off to a good start in kindergarten, all of my boys found success in house league. The … P.K., an all-star defenceman with the Nashville Predators, started his career with the Montreal Canadiens. He told parents during a team meeting that the coaches did not recognize superstars. Industry. They just really believe in the power — and purpose — behind embracing a more plant-based diet. I needed the experience as a vice-principal because I was working toward becoming an elementary principal. learning a new game, but I was learning a game too: how kids were coached in minor hockey — which could contrast quite a bit with how we were taught to teach kids in the education system. Subban was selected by the Boston Bruins in the first round (24th overall) of the 2012 NHL Entry Draft. The moment you walked in the door you saw toys, hockey sticks and mini nets scattered here and there. My uncle was not with us every day, and we did not feel this one-time event would have a lasting effect on our son’s motivation. The kids became fans of the game because my wife Maria and I were fans of the game. As I told him one time: “There are three senses you need to understand to make it in hockey: hockey sense, common sense and nonsense. It also took time. Hockey skills make you a good hockey player; life skills make you productive, happier and healthier over your lifetime. I was taking out the hockey equipment — some of it new, some of it used — donated to P.K. That meant hitting Nathan Phillips Square at 10 p.m. We learned over the years that the goal of hockey parenting was not making superstars, it was making better hockey players. The message I gave the boys regarding incidents like this evolved over time. When the reward comes from the outside, children lose interest over time and their drive for playing evaporates. My feeling is that the best way to deal with racism is to develop your potential. Scott Colby is the Star’s Opinions editor. Reprinted with permission from Random House Canada.How We Did It, by Karl Subban and Scott Colby, is available for sale online at StarStore.ca/subban . The saying that the home is the first school and parents the first teachers was made for us. For a hockey team to win, kids have to do certain things on the ice, but one of the things I learned is they are not always ready intellectually, socially, physically or emotionally to do the things we want them to do on any given day. Before we walked out the door, Uncle Owen took a $5 bill out of his pocket and waved it in the air, saying to P.K., with a big smile on his face, “You will get one of these for each goal you score today.”. Shinny was like their favourite dessert: they couldn’t wait to have it and could never get enough. There is new equipment and a uniform to learn and use. I had no idea what I was doing. My head — along with Maria’s voice — told me he should not play, but my heart said he should. T… He scored five goals and couldn’t wait to collect from Uncle Owen. Malcolm and Jordan followed P.K. Their daughters are both teachers, one a former basketball star and the other a well-known visual artist. Over time, I realized the importance of not only feeding the hockey dream but also building those life skills associated with being a good person. Subban played basketball with his talented daughters, Nastassia and Natasha, and hockey with his sons. Natasha, 21, had her athletic career cut short because of … There were plenty of books. We had never experienced this before, so we’d never had any conversations about the N-word. Biography: PK Subban first wore the maple leaf internationally at the 2008 IIHF World Junior Championship where Canada won the gold medal. P.K. Those hard challenges are your exams. For me, the younger they learned to deal with these situations the better. There are rules and routines to learn and follow. So by the time P.K. Whenever the boys’ teams lost, I felt I’d lost too. Republication or distribution of this content is I knew the skating schedule for every rink around Toronto and Mississauga. He was sitting on the couch, barely able to contain his excitement. The next year, we took P.K. I dressed P.K. First of all, we’d like to take a minute to appreciate Maria Subban. Karl Subban, now 59, continues to work on his own potential. The use of software that blocks ads hinders our ability to serve you the content you came here to enjoy. I always told my kids that dealing with racism on a personal level is like many other distractions in life: the minute you pay attention to it, you take your eyes off your destination. The Subban backyard rink allowed the boys to skate every day and develop a skating ability that separated them from most players their age. Then we’d get in the car and drive downtown. The third purpose it served was for skating. He has always just pushed it aside. Parents and young kids would be cheering, yelling, shouting and hollering throughout the hockey games, and with the spirit of competition in the mix, it made it very easy for adults to get lost in the moment. Frankly, I was embarrassed. Nastassia (Taz) and Natasha (Tasha) are both teachers with the TDSB. Starting over is something you have to get used to when you’re making a backyard rink. Subban was drafted by the Montreal Canadiens in the second round, 43rd overall, of the 2007 From year one, P.K., Malcolm and Jordan played only on the A line, already able to skate and carry the puck. In 2017–18, Subban had a career-high 16 goals and the Predators advanced to the second round of the Stanley Cup playoffs, although they were eliminated by the Winnipeg Jetsin seven games. One day we were at the Vaughan Iceplex in Toronto for a spring tournament. The price you pay is the training you do, the sacrifices you make and the critics you deal with. Afterwards, I apologized to Maria, though regrettably not to P.K., and vowed not to repeat this mistake. First, it was a safe place for our children to play during the warm weather seasons. Translator: Mirjana Čutura Reviewer: Peter van de Ven On October 24, 2016, so basically a year ago, today, I found myself outside my classroom, crushed,Continue ReadingFinding your spark thru vulnerability | Nastassia Subban | TEDxToronto P. K. Subban as seen in an Instagram Post in October 2020 (P. K. Subban / Instagram) Family. To order When he was 6, we took him out of house league and brought him to the West Mall Lightning, a select team. For about 15 years, the backyard rink was part of my winter routine. played in the middle with the older boys. If you don’t pass them, you are not going to make it. Progress is always slow, so it can be difficult to see. The minute I was able to translate this knowledge to hockey, I realized I needed to just let go and enjoy the ride. Subban and father Karl Subban said. You need consistent cold temperatures and a certain amount of snowfall. The tourists also enjoyed seeing this little black boy skating late at night with the adults. If someone throws a banana on the ice, am I going to stop playing hockey? I would have preferred driving downtown earlier in the evening to skate, but my job made that impossible. More than just a roof over our heads, it was a place where our family ethic of working, learning and playing could thrive. To this day, when I start to blow my own horn about my great parenting moves, Maria will bring me back to earth by reminding me of the decision I made that Saturday morning. He said a boy on the ice called him the N-word. Nastassia was a star athlete and top scorer on the Lions Womens basketball squad during her career at York U. Also, their two daughters, Nastassia and Natasha, are educators in TDSB, one a university basketball star and the other a talented visual artist. permissions/licensing, please go to: www.TorontoStarReprints.com. I had to have faith that the necessary skills would come over time, as each boy developed at his own pace. I got part of the puzzle solved that night and the rest of it the next morning at the arena where I could steal a glance at how it was done in the dressing room. They could always find paper, pencils or crayons to draw or colour. I will also always remember the passion displayed by the parents the minute we walked through the arena door. The garter belt mystified me completely, and the straps for the shoulder pads were another problem. The smell of that bacon was the only thing that could momentarily distract me from my sons’ hockey games on those Saturday mornings. Subban's sisters, Nastassia and Natasha, make their own mark They may only be known to most people as NHL star P.K. Maria and I considered this kind of outright bribery a no-no, but we let it go this time. After more than three decades as a teacher, vice-principal, and principal, he retired in 2013. When I took all the crazy-looking pieces out of the bag for the dry run, it was like putting together a puzzle without the picture on the box. Mother to P.K., Malcolm, and Jordan Subban – all of whom have played in NHL systems – Maria also doubled as a basketball mom for one of the brother’s two sisters, Nastassia, who was a star hooper growing up. The Subban boys have all been drafted and signed by NHL teams. I wasn’t a yeller or screamer. Our house had four bedrooms and a big backyard. Nastassia (Taz) and Natasha (Tasha) are both teachers with the TDSB. I tried to teach my students the same way. Like Walter Gretzky, he built a backyard rink. There are two types of motivation — extrinsic and intrinsic. The house was set up like a kindergarten classroom, with a number of learning or activity centres. Skating as a family was as routine to us as eating family dinners. Whenever my backyard rink was out of commission, I would take the boys to a city rink. Is largely influenced by his father. They got their start with the Etobicoke Bulldogs Hockey Association. But now someone had communicated it to him in a way he didn’t like. People may not like other people for a variety of reasons: our height, the clothes we wear, our weight — who knows? © 2018 YORK UNIVERSITY SPORT & RECREATION, Privacy Policy / Terms of Service / Video Platform powered by CBS Sports Digital. Father – Karl Subban (Former School Principal, Former Basketball Player); Mother – Maria Subban; Siblings – Nastassia Subban (Sister) (Basketball Player), Natasha Subban (Sister), Jordan-Carmichael Subban (Younger Brother) (Professional Ice Hockey Player), Malcolm-Jamaal Justin Subban … into organized hockey. For many years we had only one car. The A line was the top group, B was the average group and C was for those players who could barely stand on their skates. Independent play was important, and we never forced one activity over the other. All three joined house league around age 4. Playing, practising and training in hockey was routine for them by their fifth birthday. Uncle Owen’s transaction with P.K. This copy is for your personal non-commercial use only. As they get older, they transition into a more formal type of thinking. He played junior hockey in the Ontario Hockey League with the Belleville Bulls. by two of my colleagues, Barb Smales and David Bince. DFW Elite is one of only 20 programs in the nation to be officially sponsored by Nike. was young who told him after a tournament that he was never going to make it in hockey. Toronto Star articles, please go to: www.TorontoStarReprints.com, The Toronto Star and thestar.com, each property of Toronto Star Maybe he didn’t have an understanding of the game because of his age, but he could keep up and he could carry the puck and make moves with it. The games were played on Saturday mornings, and to this day I can still smell the peameal bacon cooking at Pine Point Arena. was very sick with the flu on a game day. A lot of people questioned his age. My boys had the most fun during the shinny games. We said there was no need to cry because it was only a word. To me, house league hockey is like kindergarten. On the drive home, I took advantage of this meaningful math moment. There wasn’t full-day kindergarten at the time, and P.K. From when you were playing to when you started teaching, have you noticed a change in how Black women and girls experience sports? Skate! Dump it! Sometimes winter came before Christmas, and I was able to make a solid base, but one or two days of above freezing would bring me back to the starting line. was playing with kids who were two to three years older than him. He didn’t single out any one of us, but P.K. All morning I looked for signs he was getting better, but P.K., remained in the clutches of a high temperature and displayed little energy. He returned to the World Junior team in 2009, helping Canada win a second straight gold medal as he was named to the media all-star team thanks to his three goals and six assists. This year’s event features Ontario Basketball’s Director of Basketball Development, Lindsay Walsh, as one of the feature speakers. This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Jordan was drafted by the Vancouver Canucks and plays defence with their AHL affiliate. Women & Girls Leadership and Sport Conference, Fitness & Lifestyle Services / Personal Training, Fitness Certifications & Professional Development, Student Intramural Recreation Council (SIRC), Video Platform powered by CBS Sports Digital. As soon as Malcolm and Jordan were ready to participate in the shinny games, I was like a lifeguard sitting in the distance. Our home was very lived in, and rich with things to do. We believed the bar you set is the bar they achieve, and you get what you expect. Subban seems like he has been on the move since the end of the playoffs. He came out of the dressing room crying. The oldest daughter Nastassia teaches at Westview Centennial Secondary School (located at future Norfinch Oakdale stop). Sometimes I would get up at 3 a.m.; that’s when it’s the coldest, and therefore the best time to spray the surface. With P.K. Oh yeah, and country music. That’s how they spend the majority of their waking hours. We’d stay until 1 or 2 a.m., then get a slice of pizza and go home. I learned from teaching that kids go through different stages of development and have different characteristics. Never mind the letter — you can always be better. The backyard on Arborwood Dr. served three main purposes. P.K., Malcolm and Jordan loved playing hockey, but, most importantly, they enjoyed the time hockey made for Mom and Dad to spend with them. I like to say, “You must go through something to become something,” and that means you have to face adversity. 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